Sometimes the box contains an entire period of life: a city, music, the age we were then, plans, habits - and the version of ourselves that existed at the time.
Braver, lighter, more desired - or simply someone who imagined their future very differently.
There is an interesting idea in synastry: the interaction between two charts can bring certain qualities in each person into especially strong focus. We really can feel and express ourselves differently with one partner than with another.
But after a breakup, it is easy to forget something important: that part of you did not belong to your partner.
If you were braver around them, the courage was still yours. If you travelled more, flirted more, took more risks, dreamed bigger - you were still the person doing those things.
So sometimes it helps to unpack the desire to “get the person back.” Perhaps part of the longing is actually saying: “I want to get back the version of myself I was then.”
And that is a very different task.
The stars speak. The choice is yours.